Reflections, Reflections

1. On your paper make a list of the top 5 things that keep you from finding peace within your mind. Old hurts, fears, loss, stress. Next to each one list who is getting hurt the most. Most of the time the only answer will be you!
2. Next consider only the one’s that have you as the one being hurt. Think about each one for the next 5 minutes. Feel the hurt, the loss and pain. Has anything changed? No. So it’s time to evaluate how to let go and move on from each one.
3. This is a process and it’s not always an easy one. So don’t punish yourself if you fail several times before reaching the next step. It’s ok because each time you will make it a little longer and hurt less. In other words – forgive yourself
4. For each one you think about you will have to change your thought process. This is sheer will power and you will be able to do it! When you feel your mind on the subject ask yourself who else is crying. The answer will be no one. So this is your first step in forgiving yourself and giving yourself permission to stop feeling bad over something no one else even thinks about.
5. Change the thought. Pick a subject you like and think about it. Choose a room in your home and in your mind completely redecorate it with colors, theme and everything. Cost is no object because it is a day dream. For men choose a car, truck or cabin in the woods and fix it up the way you want. Think about each part, each color, each sound as you dream. This will help to train you away from the hurtful thoughts and into a thought process of moving forward.
6. As time goes on you will realize you have more time in between the hurt thought process. If you have to make sticky notes and put them everywhere then do so. But you must learn to stop thinking about the depression the problem is causing. Do not daydream about the problem. You want your mind away from the problem completely.
7. You feel guilty? It’s normal and should be stopped. Feeling guilty causes the depression and not a solution. If it is a past hurt and nothing can change then stop the thought process.
8. After a few months you can return to the list and mark off the things you have learned to move forward from. It does not mean you have forgotten them, it only means you do not have the think about something that hurts your life and ONLY your life. No one else is suffering. Forgive yourself and move forward to the next step.
9. Create a love to offset the hurt. It can be love of a job, a person, a hobbie or anything that moves your mind forward into the future. For each hurt you let go of leaves room for something positive. Do something good for yourself and for your world. You are here for a reason so explore and donate a positive force to life. It’s ok to feel good.

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finding peace, healing, past is past, self improvement by ysobel